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Working with Other Men, What Group Therapy Actually Involves

Group therapy can feel like a step too far.

For many men, it brings up immediate questions:

• Why would I talk about this in front of other people?

• What if I don’t have anything to say?

• What if I get it wrong?

In my experience, those concerns are part of the work, not a barrier to it.

I’m Carl Stephens, a men’s psychotherapist based in Falmouth, working with clients across the UK. Alongside individual therapy, I run men’s groups using a relational Transactional Analysis approach, where the focus is not just on what you say, but on what happens between you and others in the room.

What Group Therapy Is (and Isn’t)

Group therapy is not:

• a space where you are expected to perform

• a place to give advice

• or a series of people taking turns to talk about problems

What tends to happen instead is more immediate.

You begin to notice:

• how you come into contact with other men

• where you hold back

• where you move forward

• what happens internally when attention is on you

That is the material we work with.

Why Group Work Is Different

In one-to-one therapy, patterns are often described.

In a group, they are enacted in real time.

For example:

• You might notice yourself withdrawing when challenged

• Or agreeing quickly to avoid tension

• Or competing for position without realising it

From a TA perspective, these are:

• Script patterns in action

• shifts between Parent, Adult, and Child ego states

• attempts to manage contact and maintain psychological safety

The group makes these visible.

What I Often See in Men’s Groups

Most men enter group with some version of:

• “I’ll just see how it goes.”

• “I don’t really need to say much.”

• “I’ll keep this fairly contained.”

Over time, something changes.

Not because they are pushed, but because:

• they recognise themselves in others

• they begin to experience contact differently

• the cost of staying hidden becomes clearer

Common Patterns That Emerge

In group, we often work with:

• Withdrawal — staying on the edge of contact

• Over-adaptation — saying what feels acceptable rather than what is true

• Competition — needing to establish position or competence

• Emotional restriction — difficulty accessing or expressing affect

• Control — managing how you are seen by others

These are not problems to eliminate.

They are adaptations that once made sense, now being revisited in a different environment.

How the Work Develops

1. Making Contact Visible

We focus on:

• what is happening between group members

• how interactions shift

• where misunderstandings or tension arise

This keeps the work grounded in the present.

2. Working with Ego States in Real Time

We track:

• when someone moves into Critical Parent

• when others respond from Adapted Child

• when the Adult drops out of the interaction

This allows new responses to emerge.

3. Feedback and Impact

One of the most useful aspects of group is hearing:

how you are experienced by others

Not as judgement, but as data.

For many men, this is unfamiliar — and often more accurate than internal assumptions.

4. Increasing Tolerance for Contact

Staying present with other men, particularly in moments of:

• disagreement

• vulnerability

• misunderstanding

is part of the work.

Over time, this increases:

• emotional range

• relational capacity

• flexibility in how you respond

5. Developing New Patterns

As the group develops, you begin to:

• speak more directly

• tolerate being seen

• respond rather than react

• remain in contact rather than withdraw

This is where change becomes noticeable.

A Different Kind of Connection

Many men experience connection through:

• shared activity

• humour

• surface-level interaction

Group offers something different.

Not forced vulnerability, but:

the opportunity to be known more accurately

This reduces:

• isolation

• shame

• the need to manage everything alone

What This Requires

Group therapy is not passive.

It involves:

• showing up consistently

• being willing to engage, even when uncertain

• tolerating some discomfort

You do not need to be confident or articulate.

But you do need to be:

willing to stay in the room, psychologically as well as physically

Working With Me

I run men’s therapy groups in Falmouth and online across the UK.

These groups are:

• structured

• facilitated using relational Transactional Analysis

• focused on real-time interaction, not abstract discussion

They are suitable for men who:

• feel isolated or disconnected

• notice repeating patterns in relationships

• want to develop greater self-awareness in a relational setting

• are open to being both supported and challenged

Next Step

If you are considering group therapy, the first step is to explore whether it is appropriate for you.

You can get in touch:

Email: carl@innerwarriortherapy.co.uk

Carl Stephens
Founder, Inner Warrior Therapy
Men’s Psychotherapist | Transactional Analysis Practitioner
Falmouth, Cornwall & Online UK