Getting the Most Out of Therapy: Practical Guidance for Men
By Inner Warrior Therapy – Men’s Psychotherapy in Falmouth and Online
Carl Jung – “We don’t get wounded alone and we don’t get healed alone”
At Inner Warrior Therapy, I work with men in Falmouth, Cornwall, and online across the UK to help them explore their thoughts, emotions, and behaviours in a safe, supportive environment. Therapy can be a powerful tool for change, but its effectiveness increases when you actively engage in the process. Here are 15 key principles to help you get the most from your sessions.
1. Punctuality and Attendance
Consistency matters. Regular appointments build momentum and help you maintain focus on your goals. Prioritising your sessions demonstrates commitment to your personal growth.
2. Talking About Therapy
It’s normal to feel hesitant about sharing that you’re in therapy. Opening up to trusted friends or family can provide extra support, and bringing these experiences into sessions can generate valuable insights.
3. Therapy vs Advice
Therapists guide exploration rather than giving direct advice. You are the expert in your life, and I will support you in navigating decisions and identifying the best path forward.
4. Understanding the Therapy Approach
Different therapies have different approaches. As a Transactional Analyst, my focus is on understanding your ego states and life scripts. Take time to explore what approach resonates with you and aligns with your needs.
5. Embracing Change
Change can feel challenging. While therapy supports transformation, your openness and willingness to engage with new ways of thinking and acting are crucial for meaningful progress.
6. Putting in Effort
Active participation strengthens outcomes. Reflecting on sessions, practising new behaviours, and applying insights in daily life can accelerate growth.
7. Openness to the Process
Some techniques may feel unfamiliar or uncertain. Approaching them with curiosity often leads to unexpected insights and breakthroughs.
8. Facing the Fear of Change
Fear of change is common. Therapy is not about becoming someone else, but about becoming a more authentic version of yourself. Together, we ensure changes feel empowering and genuine.
9. Making Notes
Capture moments of insight by taking notes during sessions or journaling between appointments. Tracking progress helps reinforce learning and self-awareness.
10. Being Open to Questions
Questions may sometimes feel abstract, but they are designed to deepen self-exploration. Staying open allows the conversation to guide discovery.
11. Be Honest
Honesty is essential. Sharing thoughts, emotions, or frustrations—whether about your life or the therapy itself—ensures that the process remains genuine and effective.
12. Vulnerability is Key
Opening up may feel uncomfortable, but vulnerability is crucial for meaningful growth. Trusting the process allows deeper emotional exploration.
13. Therapy Can Be Tough
Confronting innermost thoughts can be challenging. Over time, sharing becomes easier. If something feels overwhelming, we adapt the pace to suit you.
14. Prepare for Sessions
Take time before each appointment to reflect on your priorities and current emotional state. Preparing helps maximise the impact of each session.
15. Provide Feedback
Your input shapes the therapy. Share what works, what feels helpful, or what doesn’t resonate, so sessions remain tailored to your journey.
About the Author
Carl Stephens – Founder of Inner Warrior Therapy
I am a men’s and sport psychotherapist specialising in masculinity, based in Falmouth, Cornwall, and offering online sessions across the UK. I use Transactional Analysis and relational approaches to help men build self-awareness, resilience, and authentic connection. Whether you are facing emotional challenges, relationship difficulties, or seeking personal growth, I provide a safe and supportive environment to guide you on your journey.
📧 carl@innerwarriortherapy.co.uk
📞 07307 224924
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